5 Ways To Stay Motivated During Marriage Challenges
Certain days start off heavy, with leaden sky pulling you through life’s motions like a puppet. The idea of going to social events seems like wading through treacle, and the thought of work looms like a mountain to conquer. However, a clarion call breaks through the mist when this apathy creeps into the foundation of your marriage and every obstacle seems insurmountable.
These burdens—the deafening din of fights, the hollow ache of loneliness, the threat of financial strain—may murmur alluring surrender pledges. But is it really that odd to be trapped in a marriage and on the verge of despair?
When I first got married, the idea of divorcing seemed unthinkable—like a ghost from the past that was waiting to be discovered. But a fortuitous meeting with an elderly couple, their marriage tempered by more than forty years of conjugal life, broke my innocence.
They acknowledged the shadows that had obscured their path—betrayal, alienation, and uncertainty—with a gleam in their eyes and the wisdom of millennia carved across their faces. But despite the storm, they managed to find the mooring of tenacity by holding on to the hope that was waiting for them on the other side.
I saw the delicate dance of light and shadow that forms the fabric of lifelong love in their candor, and I was struck by the fragile beauty of perseverance.
How’d They Do It? How Did They Stay Motivated When They were Experiencing Difficult Martial Challenges? The Couple told me they secret: ” You Just Have To Remember”
“Remember what exactly?”
1. Remember Your Why.
Why echoes in the depths of the heart like a query in the maze of matrimony? Why did you set out on this journey of devotion and love? Was it the desire to create a legacy together, the seductive pull of passion, or the need for companionship? Each of your reasons is a guiding star in the fabric of your relationship, and they are as distinct as the constellations in the night sky.
Adore the infinite expanse of your purpose, as it serves as your compass across the turbulent waters of marital difficulties, a pillar of stability amidst life’s always fluctuating waves.
2. Remember Your Story.
Pictures and videos are like threads in the tapestry of memory, waiting to be expertly woven into the rich fabric of a story by the narrator. They are portals to fleeting moments, energy-filled containers pulsating with the vigor of shared experience.
These tales, inscribed in the pages of history, are not just artifacts of the past but also points of reference for how you should view your partner and your partnership. These are mirrors that trace the trajectory of your development across time, reflecting the core of who you are.
3. Remember To Never Stop Connecting.
Perpetual discovery is the compass that points you in the direction of a closer bond in the maze of love. Never give up on the holy art of communication in the face of marital turmoil. Take part in the jovial conversation, creating bonds despite the challenges of hardship. When you stop talking, the void becomes larger, engulfing the remnants of your former connection.
4. Remember You’re Not Alone.
Seeing the beaten soldiers of love, their bond tempered by forty years of life together, sparked a smoldering blaze in my own marriage. Their tenacity, which is evidence of the eternal strength of love, stoked a glimmer of hope in the deepest corners of my heart. Since then, I’ve realized that most couples have experienced the perilous terrain of hopelessness and have considered giving up in the midst of a tumultuous marriage. When in doubt, listen to the advice of wise old warriors, whose wounds from combat are testament to the victory of love over misfortune. And if the darkness descends too far, a sage counselor can be your guide through the maze of marital discord.
5. Remember Yourself.
It is easy to get lost in the maze of expectations and letdowns throughout the complex dance of marriage. However, research reveals a basic truth: happiness unravels when one’s view becomes clouded, casting shadows over one’s relationships, career, and self. Take care of your own self-garden and develop resilience by self-improvement and self-care; this is where the secret to surviving the rigors of marriage resides.
Recall the pool of common memories during the trial by fire; it is a source of power that outshines even the blackest gloom. Efforts to give up could seem tempting, but you have the resources in your subconscious to show you the way. The light may be hidden by the depths of the cave, but with the treasures of memory at your disposal, you can drive out the dark and step out into the bright dawn of rebirth.
